Like many other entrepreneurs, we yoga teachers get together to share business and life stories. When I met Erinbell Fanore, a fellow yoga teacher in Berlin teaching hatha and yin yoga, at one of these casual get-togethers, I was most impressed that she made her own yoga DVD on the sunny island of Malta. She talked about it like it was easy to pull off, so I had to ask how how she did it with such ease as one of my Yogis of the Month.
Even if you don’t want to make your own yoga DVD, listening to how simple and easy it is to tackle a big project once you break down into steps and ask for help is helpful for any project. You would imagine that producing a DVD would take months to do, right? But knowing that Erinbell produced hers in just two weeks completely changed my mindset of what’s possible. And expanding possibilities is always a good thing.
Listen to my interview* above with Erinbell (or download it!) to find out about:
her introduction to yoga through…Cindy Crawford in the desert?!
retraining your muscles through two somatics exercises she shares
I’ve been diving deep into yoga history by reading. One book I recently read, The Poets of the Powers: Magic, Freedom, and Renewal by Kamil V. Zvelebel, has translations of Tamil Siddha poetry. It’s a thin volume, only 144 pages with footnotes included, so it was a good introduction to this group of yoga practitioners I had only heard of in passing before.
Tamil is one of the languages in South India and refers also to the culture of the people who speak the language. The Tamil Siddha school of thought is a branch of tantric yoga, with a distinct character of social radicalism and an emphasis on magical powers. A distinction of tantric yoga is the belief that liberation is possible in your human body and not just at death, which lead to technique of yoga to ensure a healthy body. The body is the seat of the experience of liberation. If your body was weak, in pain, or unbalanced, how could you experience bliss or become liberated?
What is the sign of absolute and true liberation?
The physical body aglow with the Fire of Immortality.
(Uroma risi nanam 12) p. 58
Even though Zvelebel says that the first Tamil Siddha poet was active between the seventh and eleventh centuries, it would be a mistake to think Tamil Siddhas were only active in medieval India. Zvelebel claims that the Siddha doctrines are still a vital undercurrent in modern-day South India albeit hidden from public view.
Written in an intentionally enigmatic language, where words embody multiple meanings, the Tamil Siddha poems can be mystical or vulgar and direct. For example, Civavakkiyar who was writing immediately before the tenth century wrote (p. 87):
Why, you fool,
do you utter mantras,
murmuring them, whispering,
going around the fixed stone
as if it were God,
putting garlands of flowers around it?
Will the fixed stone speak–
as if the Lord were within?
Will the cooking vessel,
or the wooden ladle,
know the taste of curry?
The misogynist language in some of the Siddha poems really bothered me. All of the poets translated in the book were men, and women, specifically the bodies of women, were temptations for them.
9. Breath deeply, rhythmically, slowly, regularly and relaxedly. Be conscious of the speed and rhythm of your breath.
10. Walk at least two hours daily.
11. Regular and frequent sexual intercourse is beneficial. However, be master, not slave of your sex-life. Oral-genital sex is not harmful; on the contrary, it is often desirable. Visualize yourself as the creative Siva, and your partner as your (i.e. Siva’s) sakti, energy. Let her lie on you, and drink your sperm; let you suck her discharge of pleasure (curatanir).
12. Never give up. Never be idle. Try to maintain always a cheerful and positive attitude. There is no harm in satisfying a desire, when the satisfaction destroys it. Do not suppress forcibly any desire. Liberation is always here and now with you. If you cannot believe in god, it does not matter. Believe in yourself, in your own existence. Find out the source from which you came.
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to meditate for ten days on a silent meditation retreat? I definitely have.
During my yoga teacher training in India, we were not supposed to speak during meals. The idea was that we were supposed to be fully conscious of our food rather than getting distracted by socializing. Some people took it further and did not speak for an entire day, wearing a little sign around their neck that they were observing silence aka mouna. Some people say observe silence so that you save your energy to turn inwards rather than focusing outwards in idle talking. Once you quiet speech, the mind quiets down too. Others say that there is no need for communication if you realize the great truth that there is no other–‘they’ are no other than me. Whatever the reason, observing silence is a powerful practice especially in conjunction with meditation.
I decided to connect with Alessandro Aliosha Pedori, teacher of contact improv and yoga in Berlin, who meditated in Thailand for ten days at the Buddhist International Dhamma Hermitage of Wat Suan Mokkh. Even though their website is quite comprehensive, even giving out a detailed 11-page description of their yoga classes, I wanted to know what it was really like to experience and live there for a silent meditation retreat.
Listen to my interview* above (or download it!) with Alessandro to find out:
What he would have done differently at Wat Suan Mokkh knowing what he does now (hint : bring a pillow!)
Who would be your fellow meditators and the leaders / facilitators?
Was the food good?
The lasting effects of meditating for ten days in Thailand
If you want to meditate for 10 days at Wat Suan Mokkh, here are your ACTION STEPS:
Pack a yoga mat, a pillow, tiger balm, and some paracetamol. No pretty clothes allowed, so leave them at home.
Get yourself to Thailand by plane, train, automobile, boat, foot in outside the months of January and February.
Make it to the Buddhist hermitage by 3pm on the last day of the month to register for the next ten days.
Meditate, practice yoga, soak in the hot spring, and eat delicious Thai food for ten days.
Celebrate with a Thai iced tea upon your ‘graduation’ from meditation.
Stay at the main monastery in the woods for a few days.
Escape to a tropical island in Thailand.
Interested in finding out more about Alessandro? His soon-to-be-launched website is aliosha.info.
* I apologize for the poor sound quality. My skype-to-skype interviews sound fine, but my skype-to-phone interviews get a lot of static and interference. My new microphone is in the mail; stay tuned to hear the difference with a Zoom microphone.
Have you attended a silent meditation retreat or ever wanted to?
Share your experiences–critical and cynical or blissed out–in the comments below please.
Photos (from top to bottom): Hot springs at Wat Suan Mokkh and Alessandro Aliosha Pedori
Recently I made a custom yoga video for a vegan chocolatier so that she could get in 30 minutes of yoga whenever she gets a chance rather than going to a scheduled class. I designed the yoga practice to challenge her and address her needs, and so she had a question about one of the yoga poses that challenged her : How can she keep her balance in mermaid pose?
If you’re curious too, watch the video below to find out. Even if you’re not interested in mermaid pose, the 3 tips I share in the will help you with pigeon pose and its variations.
Plus, I got some great compliments on my gold leggings–watch them in action!
This video is for the ladies. Not one? Send the following video to one or two of your favorite ladies.
Period time affects every woman differently. Some notice no difference. Others feel tired, cranky, sluggish. Other than avoiding inversions, I’d suggest you listen to your body. When I was younger, I practiced a vigorous active yoga even on my period days. These days I ease myself into restorative poses like the ones in the video below. They’re also good when you just want some yoga postures to help your energy go downwards.
Let me know if these yoga postures help you during your time of the month or if you have any other questions about yoga, meditation, or living well.
Frankly, I hardly missed sugar. I was fine without sugar as long as I kept eating fat and didn’t ever get ferociously hungry. As long as I kept my body fed and happy, I could decide whether to say yes or no to sweets. Finally, I’m in control rather than sugar.
My sensitivity to sugar has increased. I eat half the amount of cake as I would before. I never found milk sweet before, but now I can taste its natural gentle sweetness from lactose.
I’ve learned that sugar is hidden everywhere : Dijon mustard, ketchup, barbecue sauce, pasta sauces, salty chips, sushi rice, almost everything in a package.
People either found it totally weird and extreme that I wasn’t eating sugar or else they thought it was awesome but not something that they could ever do.
That said, doing something hard with other people makes it way easier. Knowing that I wasn’t the only one who’s lapsed into a sweet indulgence or being inspired by their sugar-free recipes kept me going after I got off track.
If you want to quit sugar too, follow my journey of quitting sugar week by week :
Week 1 where I explain the entire program of quitting sugar
If you want to more support in quitting sugar, buy like I did Sarah Wilson’s how-to manual on quitting sugar (edited to add: since I wrote this post, Sarah has updated her book with a different cover) :
If you buy through my link–THANK YOU–I get $6 from her, and it’s the same price for you but you also get my bonus PDF detailing where to get some of the supplies that’s hard to find outside of Australia. Once you make your purchase through my link, please contact me with your order number, I’ll send you my bonus PDF.
Usually when I’ve been integrating sugar back into my diet, I try not eat too much of the sugary stuff–just one bite or as little as I can. Over the weekend, however, I was invited to a traditionally German coffee-and-cake afternoon party where there’s basically tons of cakes, coffee, and tea. I decided that I was really going to eat as much cake as I wanted, like I used to before I quit sugar. Back before I quit sugar, I’d definitely eat a slice from each cake and then go back for seconds or thirds from my favorite/s. I thought that perhaps I’d revert back to my sugar-loving ways.
I was pleasantly surprised by what my body told me I wanted once I gave myself full permission to eat as much sugar as I wanted : I had a slice from two of the cakes and four or five waffle hearts, but I never even made it to the third cake. I was repulsed by the taste the way Sarah Wilson is. I really enjoyed the cakes as indulgences. I just didn’t need as much as before to be satisfied. Unfortunately, my body was not used to all that sugar, and after that party I could not fall asleep until 3 or 4AM due to the sugar high.
I had the same reaction with the fructose-free chocolates I ordered. Previously, I finished bars of chocolate in two-three days. It’s been about ten days since my chocolates arrived, and I still have yet to finish a bar, even though I allow myself to have as much as I want. I just don’t crave them like I used to. In Sarah Wilson’s words, “The enemy just leaves the battlefield.” It’s just no longer an issue.
Results from quitting sugar
Even though other people report weight loss from quitting sugar, I don’t have a scale and don’t know if I gained or lost weight. I can testify, however, that my tummy was flatter when I quit sugar 100%, because I wasn’t retaining water. I did have a clearer head throughout the entire day, and I rarely got slumps when I needed something to pick me up.
Going forward, I’ll be back to eating fruit, chocolate (fructose-free for a while until I finish the many, many chocolate bars I ordered), and sweets.
The changes I’ll stick to from my eight weeks of quitting sugar are
drinking coffee and tea without added sweetness
not drinking fruit juice or fizzy sweet drinks at bars–just ordering water!
eating fat-full snacks when I’m hungry rather than reaching for a sugar-laden pick-me-up
adding flaxseed oil to my dinners to get happily full and to get my fatty acids
reading labels to see how much fructose is present and trying to stay below 3-6 grams of sugar per 100 g serving
I don’t want to become an anti-sugar bore, but quitting sugar has really improved my mental and physical health. If you’re interested, you can start the journey by finding out more from my first blog post about quitting sugar.