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Articles tagged “commitment”

Failing at Trying Vegan

 

Dont Worry Youre Doing Great Baby Sketch

So there was a small break in my try vegan posts because I was rushing around Wednesday and just plain FORGOT that I had committed to eating vegan for lunch every work day.

I felt bad that I ate cheese spaetzle; I felt worse that I had forgotten my commitment to eating vegan. It’s like forgetting to pick up your son at school or to put on your skirt when you walk out your front door–how could I forget?

Looking back I see now that two big things contributed to my forgetting:

Being too busy — I came back from a long weekend with a full plate, putting out fires on several fronts at once, as well as having places to be at specific times.

Not systematizing it — I didn’t write it down in my calendar. I write almost everything down I don’t want to forget, because my brain is a selective sieve.

I spent all day Thursday moping about it and feeling guilty. But that doesn’t help! I’m eating vegan to bring more joy, not more suffering, to the world.

So if you ever slip in your commitment to anything you said that you’re going to do, whether that’s trying vegan or practicing yoga, here’s how to get back on track.

1. Forgive yourself.

Lose the guilt. Keep going. Making mistakes is part of the game.

2. Figure out what went wrong.

What led to you not doing what you said you’d do?

Was there just nothing vegan to eat? If so, was it a lack of time to prepare something ahead of time or lack of options at the restaurant?

Was the social pressure too great? If so, meet people for drinks or not around eating.

For me, it was not having a daily reminder of my commitment, especially for the busy times when I can only focus on the task in front of me.

3. Take action to implement whatever needs to be in place.

Make a list of vegan and vegan-friendly restaurants around your workplace so that you always have good places to suggest.

Change your lunch plans with carnivorous friends who only eat greasy roasted chickens to meeting for coffee.

In my case, I’m going to write ‘vegan lunch’ every single day on my calendar for the rest of August.

4. Repeat again every time you fall off track.

Maybe this seems pessimistic to assume that falling off track is a given, but it’s a fact that humans are not perfect. We learn more about ourselves from our mistakes.

For example, I know that I’m good at focusing on the task at hand and blocking out everything else. Now I have to put in reminders so that I don’t forget anything that’s important to me.

 

What do you do when you fall off track on your goals and commitments?

 

 

 

 

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Something you don’t know about me

Here’s a short and sweet video I made while goofing around after yoga class in which I reveal one of my private yoga projects for 2012.

Other people make resolutions for January; I decide what I want to experience in 2012 and keep on trying until it happens.

Watch the video to find out an experience I want to have this year:

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ACTION QUESTION :

Where in your life have you left before you had to?

Where do you give up early and take yourself out of the game?

This applies to yoga postures but also anything else you’re working on.

For example, do you not ask your boss for a raise because you assume the answer will be no?

Do you not ask that interesting person out for a tea because you’re afraid of being rejected?

Don’t make the decisions before the experience–let the experience teach you.

 

If you have any questions about yoga, meditation, or eating with integrity, let me know and I’ll answer you in next Thursday’s Q and A.

xoxo,

Bettina